A Small World – The Citadel Edition

I am an outgoing person and try to stay in touch with the friends I make so it isn’t surprising that I will run into acquaintances as our family travels. Since my son graduated from The Citadel I now find the connections I made through his time at the school adds an additional layer to these small world meetings. A chance meeting this past weekend brought this to mind.

A little background. . . .  During my son’s deployment a friend in my church, who is a graduate of The Citadel, sent an email of introduction to his former classmate, a 1972 graduate. This gentleman has been a tremendous source of support and encouragement to me while my son was deployed. He keeps track of the graduates, cadets and some parents of cadets who are in Afghanistan serving our country.

On occasion I will ask my contact for names of deployed soldiers who would like a care package. My contact then sends a note to his list asking for the soldiers to respond to me with their requests.

In response to one of these emails I received a surprise note from a Captain asking for something I never thought about. He asked for American flags. He and his Apache crew fly the flags then send them to people as a thank you for their support. He and his crew were buying them out of their own pockets. He asked if we could find people who would send them a dozen. Together with another Citadel mom we quickly asked the moms of Citadel Cadets to contact us if they would like to contribute to the cause. Within a day or so we had enough money to purchase more than the amount requested. After calling a few flag makers I found one who gave us a good discount which enabled us to factor the postage in as well.

When I saw the Captain’s name I knew it sounded familiar. Sure enough, he is the same Timothy Devine who is from our home town, who graduated from the same high school as my son, then went on to The Citadel and his senior year, Class of 2007,  was the Regimental Commander. I had heard his mother worked for a local school, so I called her.

As both an Army mom and the mom of a Citadel graduate I would want to know if someone reached out to my son, so I called Captain Devine’s mom, Karen, to tell her about the flags. We talked and shared some emotional deployment stories. It was nice to know that there was another mom near by who I share quite a bit with even though we had never met.

This certificate accompanied a flag flown in Afghanistan.
This certificate accompanied a flag flown in Afghanistan.

Last week a box arrived in the mail from deployed the Captain! He sent a nice certificate and one of the 3′ x 5′ flags that had flown aboard an AH – 64D Apache Helicopter over the provinces of Afghanistan on a combat mission in support of Operation Enduring Freedom. I had offered to send the flags to a few individuals for the Captain. He included a flag for me, one for my friend, Sarah Lancaster. I was able to deliver one directly to a Citadel mom who is a teacher. Her class sent drawings and notes to soldiers. I asked the recipients to take a photos with their flag so Captain Devine would see them.

With the flags off to their recipients I thought the chapter on flags was shut. Until I went to the garden nursery this weekend.

As I walked to my car another vehicle pulled in. On the back of the car was a Blue Star sticker and a sticker for The Citadel. When the driver got out I asked if he is a graduate. Just as I gave my name his wife came around the car and said, “I am Karen Devine!” What a wonderful surprise.

We hugged and, of course, I asked if we could get a photo taken of the two of us. We both happened to be wearing Citadel blue too!

Karen Devine and Dorie stand by the back of the Devine's car for a photo.
Karen Devine and Dorie stand by the back of the Devine’s car for a photo.

 

Karen and I arranged to meet again at her school so I could show her the certificate and flag her son, CPT Timothy Devine sent to me.
Karen and I arranged to meet again at her school so I could show her the certificate and flag her son, CPT Timothy Devine, sent to me.

 

A "Mamarazzi" Learns How Music Can Heal

Dorie AKA "Mamarazzi" with the members of Ghost Town
Dorie AKA “Mamarazzi” with the members of Ghost Town

Last night I took my 14-year-old daughter to the Bryan Stars Ghost Stories with Ghost Town concert at the Masquerade in Atlanta. I’ve driven by the Masquerade dozens of times, but last night was the first time I went inside.

We arrived early for the VIP session. We’ve done this before for other concerts. You pay for a VIP ticket and it gets you into the venue early to meet the bands (s) and hear them play a song or two. Photos and autograph’s are a must during this time. Last night I finally gave a name to what my role is at these events. Instead of Paparazzi I decided my name is Mamarazzi. It’s fun to follow my daughter as she meets and greets the members of the band and makes friends with the fellow fan girls.

Waiting to enter the VIP session of the Bryan Stars Tour
Waiting to enter the VIP session of the Bryan Stars Tour

I learned a while ago that these bands do more than make music. They can be a life line for stressed out teens and young adults. I’ve heard from several fans that the music they like and the bands they follow have saved their life. Many of these concert goers have relayed how the music and the band members helped them stop their destructive behaviors, like cutting.

Chelle enjoys the music of Ghost Town during the VIP session
Chelle enjoys the music of Ghost Town during the VIP session

Unfortunately too many parents don’t take the time to understand what music means to their kids. Many parents are too quick to judge the music as the cause for the anxiety and depression teens feel, when in fact the music is what speaks to them and gives them hope.

I am still learning about this phenomenon. Back last winter a fellow mom of a Citadel cadet came to Atlanta for a concert promoted by the organization To Write Love on Her Arms. The mission of to Write Love on Her Arms states:

TO WRITE LOVE ON HER ARMS IS A NON-PROFIT MOVEMENT DEDICATED TO PRESENTING HOPE AND FINDING HELP FOR PEOPLE STRUGGLING WITH DEPRESSION, ADDICTION, SELF-INJURY, AND SUICIDE. TWLOHA EXISTS TO ENCOURAGE, INFORM, INSPIRE, AND ALSO TO INVEST DIRECTLY INTO TREATMENT AND RECOVERY.

The concert we attended at Center Stage in Atlanta last winter was filled with people of all ages and genders. It was obvious to me that the attendees were there to hear the artists performing, but also to express their appreciation for the care and concern these artist show to their fans.

At the Bryan Stars concert at the Masquerade last night I had the chance to meet Kevin the lead singer of Ghost Town. He told me he encourages his fans to make a new friend at the concert. He agreed when I asked him if he too has heard how music helps fans who are struggling.

Kevin of Ghost Town poses with Chelle during the VIP session before their concert.
Kevin of Ghost Town poses with Chelle during the VIP session before their concert.
Chelle met a new friend at the concert. They are showing off their new shirts.
Chelle met a new friend at the concert. They are showing off their new shirts.

I watched the fans light up during the VIP session. Then as we waited outside for the concert to start we met a few fans who had VIP passes but arrived too late. Manny, the drummer for Ghost Town walked by. I asked his if he would say hello to these young women who missed their opportunity for photos. He not only stopped to say hello and take photos with them, he went inside and brought them their signed posters and lanyards. But mostly importantly, he spent time with them, talking.

Manny, the drummer for Ghost Town, takes a selfie with his fans.
Manny, the drummer for Ghost Town, takes a selfie with his fans.

I have a new admiration for these young artists. They live a very grueling life. They are on the road every day living out of vans and buses, getting sleep in short spurts, and eating on the run. Their fans adore them and they appreciate their base, taking the time to really visit. I’ve seen this happen at other concerts. The members of Late Nite Reading, and Farewell, My Love were the first band members I watched reach out to their fan base, including my daughter. Their YouTube video’s, Twitter, Tumblr, and Instagram accounts help connect them in a way bands of my day never could. I wrote about them in the post, A Fan Girl’s Mom Says Thanks.

Chelle with the members of Ghost Town during the VIP session.
Chelle with the members of Ghost Town during the VIP session.

My hope is that more parents will take the time to talk to their kids and learn why they like the music of their favorite bands, instead of making judgements based on the sound or look of a group. It could make a huge difference in the life of their child. To Write Love on Her Arms has a great section of their website for people who would like to learn more about the issues many young people (and older ones too) are struggling with, see this link titled Learn.

In a seas of arms I can see my daughters arms because of all the band bracelets she wears.
In a seas of arms I can see my daughters arms because of all the band bracelets she wears.
The "Merch" tables during the concert.
The “Merch” tables during the concert.
Chelle shows Manny her "Grumpy Cat" Face.
Chelle shows Manny her “Grumpy Cat” Face.

To see my photos from the concert click on this link.

The Citadel Family Takes Care of Its Own

The Ring
The Ring
photo by Stanley Leary

Each fall on the campus of The Citadel a ritual takes place during Parent’s Weekend. The seniors receive their hard-earned rings. I wrote about this tradition last year in a blog post, The Citadel and the Fellowship of THE Ring.

The ring for the Corps of Cadets isn’t just any college ring. They have to earn the right to wear it. Unfortunately for some the cost of the ring stands in their way. For years the alumni have stepped up to the plate to help the few cadets who need it.

There is now a fund through the Citadel Alumni Association and The Citadel Foundation  to help these cadets meet the cost of the ring, The Palmetto Ring Fund. The alumni take care of their own and this is just one more example of how they take care of their newest brothers and sisters.

The Palmetto Ring Fund fund and the SGT. Aaron X. Wittman, USA, ’07, Memorial Scholarship fund are two funds I support.  Aaron was in the same battalion as my oldest son when he was killed in action in Afghanistan this year. I had the privilege of attending the burial service for Sgt. Wittman earlier this year. You can read my entry about that experience here, In Memory of Sgt. Aaron Wittman, An American Hero.

I invite you to join me in supporting current cadets in this way. Please visit the websites for: The Palmetto Ring Fund and the SGT. Aaron X. Wittman, USA, ’07, Memorial Scholarship fund to make your contribution.

SGT. Aaron Wittman's tree on Warrior's Walk at Fort Stewart.
SGT. Aaron Wittman’s tree on Warrior’s Walk at Fort Stewart.

Clay Pot Cadets for a Cause

photo provided by Peggy Jackson
photo provided by Peggy Jackson

A Citadel mom, who is also a Girl Scout leader, has a fun idea for a fundraiser. Clay Pot Cadets. The girls are raising money for a trip to London and Paris in 2014.

They will take orders until September 25, 2013.

See the ordering details below:

Girl Scout Troop 24324 in Roswell, GA is pleased to present Clay Pot Cadets!  The Cadets are available in a variety of sizes and can be customized with your Cadet’s rank, if desired.  They are weatherproof, too!

All proceeds help pay for the girls’ trip to London and Paris in 2014.  Delivery will be made parents’ weekend, or shipping or delivery can be arranged afterwards, depending on location.

Please indicate what size cadet you would like (descriptions below) Send your name, address, email and phone number along with your check made out to:     G.S. Troop 24324 and mail to Peggy Jackson, 1055 Saddle Lake Ct., Roswell, GA  30076. 

If you prefer to use a credit card, I can call you to get the information.  

Email questions to: Peggy Jackson: [email protected]

Thank you! 

Large Cadet (made with 8-inch clay pots, stands about 3.5 feet high with hat plume) $150.00

Medium Cadet (made with 4-inch clay pots, stands about 2 feet high with hat plume) $75.00

Small Cadet (made with 2-inch pots, stands about 12” tall; painted embellishments) $30.00

Personalized with rank   $5.00 additional for large; $3.00 additional for medium

Notes:  (rank, year, other)

Thank you! 

Clay Pot Cadet front view
Clay Pot Cadet front view
Clay Pot Cadet side view
Clay Pot Cadet side view
Clay Pot Cadet rear view
Clay Pot Cadet rear view

 

The Citadel: Parent's Weekend and Ring Weekend 2013

The Class of 2014 reports in on Matriculation Day.
The Class of 2014 reports in on Matriculation Day.

The year is flying by, at least for me. It’s hard to believe the cadets who were knobs my son’s senior year will receive their rings October 4.  I envy the senior families. Ring Weekend was a highlight of our four years of visits to The Citadel.

Of course it is also a big weekend for knobs and their families. The promotion ceremony Saturday morning is a huge step in the life of a knob. They will move from being cadet recruits to full members of the Corps of Cadets, but still lowly knobs. I’ve written several entries about the weekend and will include links below.

The school has posted the schedule for the weekend to their website. Senior parents can find the Ring ceremony details and schedule on the Cadet Activities website.

The Citadel: Recognition Day and Ring Weekend

Special Weekends: Parents Weekend, Homecoming, Corps Day, Recognition Day

The Citadel: Parents’ Weekend and Ring Weekend tips

The Citadel: Parents/Ring Weekend 2012 + Hotel Info

The Citadel: Parents Weekend Notes For Parents of the Class of 2014 and 2017

Senior Parent notes

The Class of 2014 at their promotion ceremony in 2010.
The Class of 2014 at their promotion ceremony in 2010.

 

SkinnyScoop Nomination for Top 25 Military Mom Blogs!

I don’t find myself speechless very often, but an email I received today left me with no words.

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I’m Joanne, and I handle community outreach at SkinnyScoop.com in San Francisco.  I’m writing to let you know that your blog has been nominated to our ‘Top 25 Military Mom Blogs’ contest!  It’s been great learning more about your blog and I wanted to be sure that you knew you were in the running.
If you’d like to share your nomination with your readers, you can find the contest here –http://www.skinnyscoop.com/list/SkinnyScoop_Staff/top-25-military-mom-blogs-of-2013.  There are more than 40 blogs nominated so you may need to scroll down to find your nomination(s).

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You can see the joy and relief on all our faces. Photo by Sarah Kohut Harrell
You can see the joy and relief on all our faces.
Photo by Sarah Kohut Harrell